I'm deployed, wife pregnant and high risk, she's having severe complications, my command sucks, what do I do?

Question

I'm active duty army, on my second deployment, 1 month into it, my wife is 13 weeks pregnant.

She's been to the hospital twice since we left and almost lost the baby both times.
I found out today that her blood type has RH Negative, which is causing the problems. The baby doesn't have the same blood type and her body has been trying to reject the baby. She has gotten an injection today and will continue to get them to keep the rejection from happening.

But now she is bedridden and has pain 24/7. She cannot, and is not allowed to do anything and she is home by herself, with hardly anyone to help her or for her to get everything ready for the baby, since I'm deployed.

I've spoken to my first line supervisor, and my first sergeant, and I'm ready to go to my commander to try to get home to help her, or at least get help. If he doesn't help me, I'm ready to go above him, but in all honesty, what can I do?

Please help. I'm honestly worried because as a husband, I can't take care of my wife like I should, and there is no more than 2 people that can help my wife, and that is not very often.

Answer 1

Her OB/GYN needs to send a Red Cross message stating that she has no one else to care for her(parents that can fly in etc.) That's the only way your command will allow you to come home. If the Dr. doesn't deem it necessary that you be there then you will stay deployed. I'm sorry about your wife do you have any other children because usually the RH factor is not an issue with the first child only the subsequent ones and the Rogam shot should be enough to prevent a miscarriage. Good Luck and I hope all is well with your wife.

Answer 2

Your wife need to speak to her doctor and get a red cross message sent out to you. If she needs help she should call the FRG and they should pitch in to help take care of things for her.



You should be allowed to come home and be put on rear D. However if her situation improves and they need you they will send you back.

Answer 3

Your headed down the right path, continue to pound your Chain of Command and NCO Support Channel, if it persists to long, go straight to the top, don't mess with middle ground. Talk to your State Senator and work it that way, sometimes you have to air your laundry to get anywhere. I wish you the best of luck and I will pray for you!



Sgt. Gordon (11B - Active Army - Deployed)

Answer 4

Apply for hardship leave or a hardship discharge. You will probably need a red cross message to do either. If they don't help you, go to the IG.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

damn brother **** like that really gets to me. i feel what your saying but it sounds like your going about it the right way. what really pisses me off the most about it is that your first sergeant didnt do **** and thats where **** is supposed to get done.