Sorry, can't speak as a Navy wife.
But I can tell you a little about what's going on in Great Lakes.
Not sure his report date, but the first couple of days are a blur of confusion. Sorry, but he was too busy trying to do stuff he had no idea as to what, why, or how. There is absolutely no time to think.
After that, for a week or so, he's getting into a routine. Up, prepare for inspection (personal and barracks) march to breakfast,eat, march to classes or PT, march to lunch, eat, march to class or PT, march to dinner, march back to barracks, study, go to bed... and you wouldn't believe how fast he's asleep. In there somewhere he's also learning to stand watches.
During that time there's little or no mail. Part of the training is weaning. Navy deployments are often long. Communication is sporadic... sometimes nonexistent for months. Think about a submarine. It's underwater a month at a time. The only time it can get mail is in port or on the surface. If you send him a letter and it hits right after he's gone down, it'll be a month before he can get it... that will be about six weeks after you wrote it. The mail arrives and he answers it that same day... but it'll be another month before he can send it. Now about 10 weeks. Sub surfaces to take on supplies and mail, and about 12 weeks after you sent your letter, you get your reply.
Phone communications are extremely limited in boot camp.
By now you should have received everything he took with him to boot camp. One thing missing from that package is his wedding ring. He's allowed to keep that.
To be honest, you probably don't want to talk to him at this point. Most recruits go through a period when they wonder why they ever subjected themselves to such intolerable cruelty. If you're worried now... when he's at that point in his head, you may become frantic. He's being force-fed Navy history, Navy regulations, Navy vocabulary, and a general Navy and military education. He'll learn that every place on a ship has an address. He'll learn that he walks on decks, goes trough hatches, paints bulkheads, and looks up at overheads. He'll learn that the pointy end is the bow and the back porch is the fantail. He'll relearn his alphabet... it's now alpha, bravo, charlie, delta.These things and a whole lot more are becoming second nature to him.
Then, sometime, about the middle of his training, he'll look up from the deck on which he's been running, on which he's been marching, on which he's been doing a billion push-ups and sit-ups... and sees a light at the end of the tunnel... He might actually make it through this meat grinder!
Some time in there he's been given time to write letters occasionally. If so, at this point in his training, the tenor of the letters will probably change. He'll be more positive... more up-beat. His attitude will have changed from, "Holy
!!! I'm going to die!!!" to, "Graduation's in sight." More than likely he'll be getting ideas about what kind of stuff the Navy has planned for his future. He'll know where he's going to "A" school... or, if not "A" school, where he's going to be stationed.
His life will now be a blur of activity. But now he knows what's going on. Whatever he's doing now makes sense... finally.
Then there's graduation... and boot liberty.
Ok... that's what's going on.
Now, if it's been more than a month... a couple of weeks since you've received his civilian clothes... the stuff he wore and took to boot camp, and there's still no word, and you're worried... two things:
(1) If anything bad were to happen, as his wife, you'll be the first to know. So, it really is a case of "no news is good news."
(2) You can contact him by contacting the Chaplain. I'd caution you about this method. NEVER use it when he's deployed. He can get in trouble... or at least VERY embarrassed. In boot camp I'd guess it's less traumatic. I had a grandmother use this method once. I was out of touch for about a month. It was a security thing. Anyway, I get back to base and am ordered to speak to the skipper. He told me about the letter that had reached him through the Chaplain. I explained why I hadn't written. He "suggested" that I knock out a letter. So I did. I told her that I would write when I could, but if she ever wanted to hear from me again, she would never go that route again. Then I made up a postcard that said essentially, "I'm fine. Don't worry." and enclosed that with the letter with a note, if "when I can write" wasn't sufficient she could look forward to these for the duration. I don't suppose she stopped worrying, but she never contacted me "through channels" again.
One more thing... for emergency use only... you can go through the Red Cross.
That's the up-side. One poster already alluded to the down-side. "If you love each other it will last."
Young relationships seem to have one of the highest casualty rates in the military. It takes work on both sides... and commitment--a whole lot more of both in a military relationship than in a civilian relationship.
There are the separations. When people first get married they expect to spend most of their lives together. Not the case in the military.
There are the finances. BHA is a whole lot more today than when I was in, but even with that, it can be difficult to balance budgets... especially with enlisted pay.
There is the fear. In a civilian job hubby leaves in the morning and returns in the afternoon. Aside from a traffic accident, being struck by lightening, or some such calamity, he's safe. In the military the one on active duty has people hunting him or her. The one at home lives in fear of receiving the "letter."
And, unfortunately, there is cheating... on both sides. The rationale is the same on both sides. "I'm here all alone (among strangers/in danger/in combat/at home saddled with bills and kids) and (she/he) is there (st home with all her family and friends/all his bar-hopping buddies)." Oddly neither thinks what they're doing is "cheating" and would be incredibly angry were their "significant other" were to do the same.
You know your husband. You know the kind of man he is. If his moral compass is locked on course, if he possesses a strong character, if he's intelligent, I'd presume you have nothing to worry about here. And similarly, if your moral compass is locked on course, if you're in possession of a strong character, if you are intelligent, then I'm sure he has nothing to worry about either.
Forgot support. When I was in the Navy there was a group of women called "The Navy Wives Club." These women have been through it all for years. Some of them are wives of senior officers. They have access to information and can pull strings. I believe that sometimes they aren't even aware themselves of how much influence they have. But they've been through the deployments and fear... some of them for years... some for decades. http://navywivesclubsofamerica.org/
But you can do a search on "Navy Wives"