well, in all honesty I must concur with Robert .
In my time in the Navy........cheating was sadly a pretty every day occurance, both by husbands AND the wives, when the ships were away . (Oh yeahhhhhhh, the wives cheat too, ya know? )
But in foreign ports.......let's face facts.,.......you're not around.........he's got a pocketful of cash.........first stop off the ship is the first bar they pass.........20 or 30 beers later.........they move on to the red light district....and there's *Always* a red light district ......where he will spend the rest of his paycheck....and then tell you he lost it in a poker game.
Yeahhhhhhh , STRIP poker maybe......but there were no cards involved.
and like Robert.........the guys that actually stayed loyal to their wives, were so rare, you could count them on one hand.
I knew ONE guy, in Japan..........who had a Japanese wife, as sweet as could be........and he was madly in love with her, and didn't want to hurt her.
The dude was a saint. He would come with us.............drink a little, but then behaved .
I'll never forget, in one bar.......he actually started helping the hostess bus tables, and helped cleaned up.
If someone got drunk......he was the dude who walked him back to the ship. Like the designated sober person.
He was a class act.
Unfortunately, that was indeed quite rare . Most, headed straight to the red light district, and banged the first hooker they could find. I was single, and enjoyed seeing the sights, rather than drinking myself blind in some grubby hellhole........and picking up local babes the good old fashioned way, when possible
But the thing is............most port visits aren't long enough for all that.
Strict cash transactions expediate matters for most. ----especially those with zero game.
The booze first helps them screw up their courage.
many of these port visits.....it's like going to a candy store, and telling the guy not to touch the candy.
get real...............of course he's gonna sample the candy.......no matter what's waiting for him back home.
But one, or two.........MIGHTTTTTTTTT be that one guy, that actually has morals and is a decent Joe.
That's the truth, unfortunately .
I knew a few guys............who's girlfriends basically said............ "Go! Go sow your wild oats......but then, come back to me. "
Maybe they did............maybe they didn't. Who knows?