When i got done reading your diatribe.... all i could say was "wow!". you mention you are 'older individuals' - tell you what, you could have fooled me! you come across as a SPOLID BRAT in need of a good spanking or two. my guess is you didn't see many of those growing up and THIS is what your boyfriend gets as a result of your parent's poor upbringing of you. I would have guessed you were 17-19 tops. in any event, you have a LOT to learn on how all of this works when it comes to the military.. and LIFE in general. oh i know, i know.. 'don't answer rudely or i will report you'. i guess i can count on getting a thumbs down. but do you want people to be HONEST with you, or not? sometimes the news we get is bad, or not what we want to hear. that doesn't mean it is negative or that people are trying to be rude. i am a straight shooter. i prefer it when people are blunt with me, so i will be nothing less with you.
You stated something that is key, but then just as quickly forgot...." Just this year he was informed that he COULD be coming home November 10th-17th". there is a KEY WORD i emphasized in your statement. 'could'. that is how the military works. The fact someone else PCS's before him has absolutely NOTHING to do with your boyfriend's specific situation. the other Marine may be in a different field and the base he is going to may need him sooner. assignments, transfers, PCS's are all on the needs of the service. your boyfriend may be leaving something out, or he may not know. My husband had short-notice PCS's, and short notice deployments. he had an assignment CHANGED on him from base 'A' to base 'X' halfway across the country (from base 'A') AFTER the movers had come and packed out and shipped all of his family's furniture! so it could be worse.
You need to grow up. the last time i checked, the world revolves around the sun, NOT you. Oh the whine! want some cheese and crackers to go with that? all we hear is how the Marines are ruining all of YOUR well-laid plans, how much of an inconvenience this is to YOU, how it is all being RUINED...oh boo hoo hoo. Guess what? The military does not care about YOU. you are a girlfriend. until at which time you are married - you mean absolutely nothing. even ONCE you are married, the mission STILL comes first. if you marry this guy, you can count on him missing birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, family reunions, and other noteworthy events. you may have tickets to a play or show, and the mission changes and he gets to work late or gets restricted to base, and you get to find a friend at the last minute to go with you.
You can blame the military if you want...blame the Marines for being lazy, or for 'not signing a piece of paper' - but chances are there is more going on than you have been told, and honestly, he may have no more information than you do. It's not "BS", it's the mission. this is the way the military operates. the mission will always come first. always. if you cannot accept this, then he needs to come up with an exit plan to get out of the Marines, or you need to find a guy that can be married to YOU first (and not the marines) that you can keep wrapped around your finger and you can wear the pants around the house.
The bottom line is, 'veterans' know the deal. they raise their hand, take an oath, and sign the line. perhaps you were unaware of that and where you fall in the pecking order. you are not first. even my husband knows that the mission comes first, and he is retired after 23 years in the Air Force as a clandestine operator - so i KNOW he gets it. your boyfriend will be kept in Okinawa up until he is released by his command, on the effective date specified on his orders. not until. there is no kind of 'right'. if he misses thanksgiving - big deal. what is thanksgiving? a meal where everyone overeats and watches football you can have a meal at any time.
there is nothing you can do to get him home sooner. he is free to leave when he is released.
i think you are in for a very big culture shock being a military wife. all the b!t_hing and fussing isn't going to do anything other than making you more miserable than you already are. he is in the Marine Corps, not the local Jacycees. he does not have a 9 to 5 job. i think you really need to sit back and ask yourself if you love him enough to overlook this. as long as he is a Marine, it is going to be more of the same.
Good luck. i think you are both going to need it.