I'm being forced to join the military? what do I do?

Question

My family is forcing me to join the air force. I'm a artsy musical free bird. they don't like me being so. even though I'm not doing anything bad (drugs, getting arrested etc.) They still want me to join. They practically want to control my life and not let me choose a live of my own. I do not want to join but as it is getting closer and closer to me graduating high school I'm getting worried that my life as I am will be over and that I will have conformed to uniformity. Being who I am makes me special and my family does not support me doing so. I don't even think I can survive basic training. I'm 5'9 and 230 pounds female. What can I do? is there even an opportunity for me in the Air Force?

Answer 1

Don't join. Disobey them and don't join! Tell them to go f*ck themselves and choose a life of your own, because you are legally allowed to.

Answer 2

If you are such a free spirit than how can you say you are being forced into doing anything? The truth is you are in fear of angering your family, so you are trying to appease them and conform.



Now, here is some advice on what you need to do. If you don't want to join, then don't. Only you can sign yourself up. If you fear your family, then the best thing to do is come up with an alternative plan. Your family is probably worried that your future is uncertain and want you to do something that will help you get ahead. If you go to them and say, you don't want to join the military, then be ready to answer their next question, "Well, what are you going to do to prepare for your future?" A good alternative plan will reduce the pressure You feel and the worry they have for you.

Answer 3

You cannot be forced to join the military. Your parents cannot make you go in (not that I think you would pass basic height/weight standards).



Feel free to take control of your own life, get a job, and move out and start acting like the adult you may or may not be about to become.



However, if you don't have any other plans, you may want to consider joining the military to give you some focus and direction in your life.

Answer 4

How bout you cowboy up, grow a pair, and go serve your country... be a part of something bigger than yourself for the benefit of others. Might do you some good to get some discipline and structure in your life... being a "free bird" is great and all, if you wanna still be a fatass sitting on your couch in 20 years and accomplish nothing other than a few excuses for paintings.

Thinking you're "special" makes you just as much of a sheep as the next guy... when everybody thinks they're "individually important" and "unique" and "special," everybody is the same.



But it doesn't matter, you need to be in good shape and, sorry to break it to ya, but walking across the living room doesn't count as aerobics and lifting the extra large coke is not strength training.

Answer 5

False: You are not being forced. We have no draft. You are giving in to your family and I do not understand why.

If my family had the poor idea to make me do anything after I graduated High School, I would have moved out, got a job and gone to the school I wanted to. Oh Wait! That's what I did.

I am baffled why an adult person ( that is you) is allowing others to push you into the military.

For one thing, the military does NOT want recruits who do not want to be there.

Grow a pair and move out.

Answer 6

Nobody can make you join the military. You're the one who has to sign the paperwork. Also, the maximum weight for a female of your height and age is 169 lbs, so it's unlikely that anyone would even consider you, especially if you're unmotivated.



I understand that you probably don't want to disappoint them, and maybe there is some financial motivation, but they cannot force you to join. You might have a rough time as you learn to support yourself, but it will be worth it to do what you want to do. Stand up for yourself now, because it will only get harder in the future if you do what they want instead of what you want.

Answer 7

You might want to give it a try. Military schools isn't always about discipline and strict policies. The extra-curricula activities such as sports and the arts will be freely available and with a greater number and scope of options. There is a chance for an all-round education at a military school. Good luck!

Answer 8

Nobody can force you to enlist in the military. Since your own thoughts and opinions don't matter to your parents, just tell them you don't qualify for the Air Force, or any other military branch. There are a lot of things that can disqualify you. I'm surprised they don't want you to go to college or something. My parents are the complete opposite. They want me in college and nowhere near the Armed Forces. Just remember that nobody can set your future but yourself. If you don't want to enlist in the military, then don't. You have the right to make that decision. That's why we have our troops, so those who can't or don't want to enlist, don't have to.



You also don't qualify, unless you lose weight and are able to go through the intense traning and boot camp you have to complete in order to make you an official soldier in the Air Force. Trust me, I know. I qualified for the United States Marine Corps., the U.S. Navy, and the U.S Army. I'm also a military girlfriend to a U.S. Marine recruiter. I've seen the recruits work their butt off to get in, and those who don't qualify, due to weight, especially, don't make it. The Air Force and the other military branches also don't want people who don't want to be there. There are deployments and other things you will have to go through, and unless you want to be a part of all that, they won't accept you. The U.S. no longer drafts people, so you aren't being forced. Its your life and your future. Your parents have to understand that.



Joining the military is a HUGE decision and a serious one as well. Its not like college, where you can just drop out if you don't like it or you can't handle it. In the military, you serve under an oath and under contracts. Once you're in, you're in until your time is up; that is if you don't get dishonorably discharged, which by the way, isn't a good thing.

Answer 9

Even if you get through the whole thing, when you take the oath, the Captain will ask if you're being forced to do this, and you'll have to say yes. They'll tell you a weight you have to maintain and if you don't maintain that weight in boot camp, you'll be set loose. No military for you. You should do military if that's what you really want. If you're not doing this for yourself, you'd best not do it.

Answer 10

They can't force you to join. If they take you to a recruiter, you could explain to him that this is the case and he could not bother with your parents. Also you should be 18 or about to turn and in that case you should just move and do what you want to do.

And finally the air force would not take you in or any other branch because you are obese.

Answer 11

Just don't do it. Seriously, if your parents don't like you the way you are, **** them! Your old enough to make your decisions(: go to summer fat camp if you think your too big. And get applied to colleges? Take out the loans you need, maybe get some support from other family members. Don't do what you don't want to do. A lot of regrets will be made<\3



Good luck free bird(;



Xoxo

Answer 12

Just do something with your life... military is an upward move towards success... But so is working at walmart... or going to school... I joined military... now im a retard cuz i got out and drank myself and drugged myself.... so just always remember the military is only a beginning to an end... dont let it be your end....

Answer 13

at 230 pounds you do not have to worry they won't have you. you will not pass the physical. guess you best start looking for a job that will allow you to support yourself in the style you like and that allows you the freedom to do as you please. that means your own food and shelter. that takes cash so get out there and go to work. parents have the right to say to adult children, live in my house eat my food, live by my rules. so time to fly on your own.

Answer 14

If it's not what you want to do then don't let them force you. Once you turn 18 you're an adult and you can do what you want. I wouldn't worry about what your family thinks, and if they're controlling you then move out! If they're truly loving parents they'll understand your decision.

Answer 15

No, you aren't.

Your family CAN'T force you to join the Air Force nor are you able to qualify - mentally - else you would know that.

Answer 16

Yea, your too fat. at 5'9 230 you would never be able to pass the physical test required. I say if you don't want to go, get to 7-11 and load up on twinkies and soda ASAP!

Answer 17

You can't be "forced" to join, in fact they specifically ask before swearing in, if anybody was forced to be there, at which point I'm sure you can say yes and you can leave...

Answer 18

You DO NOT enlist/commission into the MILITARY because someone or several people want you too; it has to be your CHOICE, as YOU are taking the OATH, UPHOLDING THE OATH, or DISHONOURABLELY SERVING if accepted!!!!!! ONCE YOU take that OATH, YOU and ONLY YOU; are representing your SERVICE TO YOUR COUNTRY!!!!!!!!!!



Think this over SERIOUSLY, and if you want to stay a CIVY get a good job and move away!!!!!!!

Answer 19

you are way to over weight for the military...........and once you are 18 it is you and you alone that sign the papers to enlist........mind you if they are that keen at you going and you refuse I would expect you to be asked to leave once your school days are over.........then lets see how much time you have for artsy musical free bird time.............you will be too busy doing two jobs and trying to keep a roof over your head.

Answer 20

Not sign the paper work and get a job and move out !!! Your an adult now so act like one.

Answer 21

No one can make you sign a contract.



Besides, they may not take you due to your weight. So, your family can want all the want, if the AF won't have you then tuff shite.

Answer 22

They can't tell you what to do. your over or at least 18, they can't make you do anything.

Answer 23

don't worry about it, the military wouldn't want someone your size.

Answer 24

You have nothing to worry about they will not take you at that weight

Answer 25

5'9" & 230 lbs, good gawd, have you thought about a career in wrestling (sumo)

Answer 26

18

leave and live your life