Sanity Check: A lot of people say I'm "wasting" myself if I join the military?

Question

I have been strongly considering a career as an officer in either the Navy or the Army after graduation from college. However, when I have spoken with various people and consulted different resources at my disposal, I have been getting a lot of negative feedback. It has not been in the sense that I would be unfit to be an officer, but that I would be "wasting my potential." Most upsetting has been my parents because they have flat out said that they would not support me in any way if I pursue the military.

Here is some relevant info about me. I am an honors student double majoring in Geosciences and Petroleum Engineering and a varsity rower on the crew team. I have also had experience in leadership and service positions. I am confused here because a lot of people have tried to make it seem selfish or foolish to offer one's energy in support of his country. I also don't want to waste my life, and I don't want to come to the conclusion after 15 years that I didn't take a chance.

I may be a little less than concise here in stating the details, but ultimately I am after a "sanity check." Is it wasting one's talent to spend time in the military?

Answer 1

Ultamitly you have to decide for yourself. You have to live what ever life you choose.



I wasn't an officer, and I didn't have any degree nor was I close to being an honors student when I enlisted...although I did meet with some negitive resistance with friends and family. "What's a nice girl like you wanting to join the military. Get married and have a nice family." or "No man will want you if you join." or "Do you know what type of woman joins the military?"



I didn't listen to any of it. I joined and found it was a good decision for me. I grew up and found out what I wanted. I am out of it now, and have graduated college. I did finally make honors after being in the military. I think it helped me focus in school and I am a better person for my service.



After all was said and done the people who were my real friends are still my friends...and my family got used to the idea and are very supportive of me now.



Nothing worth while will ever be easy nor will it be a waste. I can't promise you that if you join that everything will magically work out. You will have ups and downs. You might have a few "why am I here?" moments...but if it is what your really want and what you desire then you should go for it.



I've been to 11 different countries. I've ejoyed my self beyond what I could have done if I hadn't joined. I am now working at a VA Hospital and I love taking care of fellow veterans. Some people tell me I could do better at another hosptial..but I love what I do.



That is what the whole point is...you have to like what you do. You have to do something that is meaningful to you. Sucess can not be bought. If you aren't happy then no amount of money will buy it...and nobody is going to give it to you.



The military is not for everyone..but it is not a waste. It is a noble job. Poeple do it everyday and most people there do not feel as though they are wasting their lives.



I think you would make a fine officer, if that is what you want.

Answer 2

Well, I spent 5 years active duty as a "dirty" enlisted guy. You know, I just didn't know what to do with my life. The military gave me an idea of what I wanted to do, what I didn't want to do, and it got me a security clearance. It gave me a great resume and I departed active duty, finished college (while doing the reserves for 3 years) an now make six figures.



With the economy the way it is, the military (especially officer route) is not a bad thing. In fact, the USAF has too many officers at this point - i've talked to some enlisted folks with four year degrees who just entered, they said there were no officer slots.



People join the military for different reasons. If you do it to serve your country, that's fantastic. I'd definitely think twice about being an Army officer - unless you really feel like being in the Middle East a great deal - Navy is a great choice (bias here).



Good luck!

Answer 3

If your goal is to make big bucks "go civilian". Want a challenge that can change with some more seriuous consequence raise your right hand and say the oath.



Taking advice about the military from folks that have never been in it is not a good idea. Life after retirement can be very comfy too!



SSG US Army 73-82

Answer 4

I've talked to some people in the army and marine corps since I got back. There's nothing more significant you can do with yourself than serving right now. Anyone who tells you different is forming an opinion based on their media exposure. Probably sounds pretty blanket-theoryish but there's definitely two sides to that coin. If you have the will to serve then do it. Or someone who doesn't might have to.

Answer 5

A lot of people are idiots. Just follow your own inclination which is obviously to become a Naval or Army officer. Go for it. We need more intelligent young talent in the military. Our future depends on people like you.

Answer 6

You most certainly are not "wasting" your talent by joining the military. Our country needs more people like you not less. You are a patriot like all who join. Never say you're sorry for loving this land and pursuing what is not only respectable, but admirable. Go for it!

Answer 7

it's all about how YOU see yourself after having achieved so many great things. it's also about PRIDE, COMMITMENT, and COURAGE to face those that don't think like you do. You seem like you have the mindset to become a Naval Officer/Army Officer so as for me, I say GO FOR IT! YOU want to do it, do it with the thought of being the BEST OF THE BEST. email me if you have any other questions =]

Answer 8

Protecting America is NEVER a waste. You sound like your smart. Be smart enough to make your own decisions for yourself and dont let other people make them for you.

Answer 9

i don't see how serving your country is wasting your potential. i mean, you get paid pretty decent money with all your living expenses paid for. i say go for it.

Answer 10

People who are trying to stop are mad because they don't have the balls to join. Period. Do it, don't listen to them.