How can I convince my boyfriend NOT to join the marine core?

Question

I have ran out of options, so I turn here for help. I have tried reasoning and talking with my boyfriend but he still insists of joining the marine core. I even told him that i will consider ending our relationship, if he does not comply with my demands. I wish the best for him and it is certainly not the marine core, I am confident that he can do things much greater than the marines. He is both Intelligent, handsome, and gentle. His characteristics run contrary to the typical qualities of a soldier, usually rough and not the brightest people in the world. I do not want him to be a tool for the corporate elite, be disable nor kill innocent people. Please help me convince him to go to college, he is ranked number one. He can get accepted in to any university he desires. I think it is the ranging hormones in him, I told him I am not impressed by heartless and wicked tools like the marines. ( I think he may be trying to join to impress me) This is not his typical behavior, he has always listen to me but as of lately it seems that I have be losing influence over his decisions. Which seems strange because we have been dating since we were 13 now 18. He has always obeyed me, at school I have chosen his classes for the past four years and arranged his schedule to match mine. HE does not understand the he NEEDS TO LISTEN TO ME, I AM HIS GIRLFRIEND.
So I need your assistance army people,is there anything that I can do or say that will prevent him form joining the marine core?

Answer 1

This probabilly wasn't the best place to post, you will more than likely get a lot of negative feedback. Don't listen to it. No one except you understands how you feel about it.



I'm an army girlfriend and I wish I could've stopped my boyfriend from joining. He is exactly how you say your boyfriend is, incredibly smart and filled with potential. But he came from a broken family and was convinced the military was the only way he could pay for school. It's been three years now and everything has been fine...but now he's leaving to Iraq in August. I just found out yesterday and I feel like my heart's being ripped out. I have no idea how I will live day-to-day life without him and especially if, God forbid, he doesn't come home. I always knew this time would come and tried to mentally prepare but finding out for sure WHEN it is happening has made everything real and I can't get rid of these feelings.



I wish you only the best and my heart goes out to you. Ultimately your boyfriend will end up doing what he wants. And although some on the internet will probably consider you "unamerican" if you decide to leave him, they don't understand. It is a choice of his and you have a choice too. Either way, it will be hard but really be prepared if you stay, because once deployment comes, there's no turning back.

Answer 2

You have a stereotype in your mind that is totally wrong. Marines can be intelligent, handsome and gentle. Those characteristics are anything but contrary to what a marine is. Marines do not kill people for fun. I'm not even going to try to comment on the rest of your rant. It isn't worth it. He would be much better off without you. Maybe you are one of the reasons he is joining the Marine Corps.

Answer 3

Keep doing what you're doing. If he wants the Marines then he'll see that you're just holding him back and he'll be the one who breaks up with you, not the other way around. He doesn't need to listen to you, you don't have any authority over him as a girlfriend no matter what you think.



Maybe you should look at the positives instead of the negatives. I never have to worry about going hungry and I never have to worry about my wife or daughter not being able to go to the doctor when they are sick because I can't afford it. Some of my civilian friends can't say the same thing and are in debt with hospital bills they couldn't afford.



If you insist on trying to control him then you WILL loose him. I know this for a fact, because I have friends who dumped their sweethearts because they tried to control everything they do. You might think I don't know what I'm talking about but I lived in the real world past high school for over ten years now. It's not all black and white.



ADDED: This young lady sent me the following E-mail, unedited with the exception of the removal of one word:



you are just a (word for female genitalia deleted) that hides behind a gun that you use to kill innocent people and enforce laws of the corperate elite



This was my reply:



Kiss your boyfriend goodbye. You are a control freak and when he sees that he will DUMP YOU for someone who doesn't try to control everything he does. You are just a little girl who needs to GROW UP. Everything isn't about you and if you don't get that idea out of your still in high school head you WILL be lonely. Tell your boyfriend, I mean your soon to be ex-boyfriend, thank you for considering to SERVE HIS COUNTRY.



She make me laugh and is going to see the world doesn't revolve around her. Or, maybe she's actually a troll just trying to get a rise out of us. The same question was asked a few weeks ago under a different account that was suspended shortly after she sent everybody who replied to her question insulting replies.

Answer 4

EVERY young man and woman in this country should seriously consider serving a stint in the military. It is an honor and a privilege to serve your country in uniform. There are few places further away from the corporate elite than your average Army or Marine Corps unit.



The fact that you can't see this at all leads me to believe that perhaps you ARE better off ending the relationship.



That or you are a troll. Some kinda Dominatrix Troll. ;)



Good day. Tell your boyfriend we wish him all the best at Boot Camp!

Answer 5

First of all this question is extremely insulting to everybody on here including myself. You sound like a controlling ***** the way you say that he always listens to you and you scheduled his classes and everything. "HE NEEDS T LISTEN TO ME, I AM HIS GIRLFRIEND", He doesn't need to do anything, you aren't his wife you are just his high school sweet heart. Let the man do what he wants with his life and stop crying about it. If you can't wait for him when he join the Marines then you truly don't even love him and don't deserve him. You are 18 anyway, most relationships that age are a joke and it seems like he is getting over you.



AND ITS THE MARINE CORPS YOU STUPID ****!

Answer 6

OK Girly listen up,, support your man always, this is a great opportunity for both of you especially if this is what he wants.. In the long run you both will be better, so stop whinning he is going to do what he wants to do.. so if you don't want to loose him support him. The money and benefits are awsome,, you get training, medical, dental, housing, meals and a paycheck, 30days vacation a years and time off all the federal holidays and he will have more endurance and strength if you get my meaning (wink wink).. He can go to college in the evening, do correspondence courses and possibly get a huge enlistment bonus so you all can get married, buy a house etc etc.. stop being selfish,, support your man especially if he is a good man...

Answer 7

wow I was actually going to give you advice, but with as controlling as you are he needs to join the Marines to get away from you and start a new life. I have never seen someone so controlling ever. A relationship is 50/50 not just 100% you.

Answer 8

First, you aren't likely to get much sympathy in this section. Second, your worldview is diametrically opposed to most of us here. Lastly, you lost me at "...usually rough and not the brightest people in the world..." I have a Bachelor's Degree, and my IQ is 133.



If you really want an opinion from military folks, it's best not to insult the people you want help from.



Personally, I hope that he kicks you to the curb.

Answer 9

"....run contrary to the typical qualities of a Soldier...". I don't think that is the way to get anyone here to help you. By the way, LEARN HOW TO SPELL!

Answer 10

Sounds to me like he thinks a Marine CORPS drill instructor would be less controlling.

Answer 11

You act like you deserve more power over him then he does himself....there was another person in history that was as power hungry as you...does the name adolf Hitler ring a bell?

Answer 12

If I dated you I would probably run to the marines, too

Answer 13

I've seen this question before. Folks are just copy-pasting it to get reactions.

Answer 14

if i was him i would beg to get stationed on Okinawa Japan ....,dont worry he'll soon realizes there more choices out there and screams freedom!

Answer 15

your just a girlFRIEND, not a wife, get a job and stop whining, and it's CORP not core